I want to apologize for my absence on the blogosphere. I assure you it was beyond my control and had to do with a very important friend's wedding and this very lovely event actually inspired me to write this post. So to my friend Brunette, I thank you for removing the Great Wall of China that was my writer's block!
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Ladies we know there is a potent, ever present, mind numbing pressure from society, friends and families to tie ourselves to another person for the purpose of holy matrimony.
I understand the need to be with someone. To not be alone. We know our loved ones have our best interests at heart when they tell us about a newly available person "who's just perfect for you!"
The blind dates and forced conversation are painful and once more we don't need to go through this pretty humiliating experience while people watch in dark corners for any hint of what could be attraction (but it's really me trying to plan my escape by saying I have a really important phone call I have to make -- to China).
I have a humble respect and admiration for others not wanting us to be alone. What I do not respect or like is the societal spotlight placed on females during weddings.
I love the dress; the ceremony; the church. I definitely love wedding cake and the reception. I do NOT love that portion of the reception with 'Single Ladies' playing in the background while every unattached female comes to the front of the ballroom. The pulsing sound of Beyonce's "oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh" is no longer an anthem of female independence or the song to which I got ready while primping for a night out with my friends. It's now the brutal, bumping beat to which myself and others now reach their arms up to claw out the eyes of another female to catch a wedding bouquet.
Yeah, so for my friend's wedding last week I sat this one out. I've caught the bouquet already -- three times. So I'm not risking life or limb for an old tradition that has no real bearing on meeting the future Mr. Cathy any sooner.
OK, let me put down a disclaimer here: I'm not bitter. I believe in love, just not people throwing in your face the constant fact that you're alone.
See most ladies, we're alone only for the moment and we're REALLY enjoying that moment and learning about ourselves and the world so when we do meet a guy, we're not looking for him to complete us, but to add to an already pretty picture.
So all the single ladies, all the single ladies, let's enjoy singledom right now because it won't be forever and soon it will be our turn to play Beyonce and throw those flowers. Come to think of it, I think I'll play a different song when the time comes for me.
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Ladies we know there is a potent, ever present, mind numbing pressure from society, friends and families to tie ourselves to another person for the purpose of holy matrimony.
I understand the need to be with someone. To not be alone. We know our loved ones have our best interests at heart when they tell us about a newly available person "who's just perfect for you!"
The blind dates and forced conversation are painful and once more we don't need to go through this pretty humiliating experience while people watch in dark corners for any hint of what could be attraction (but it's really me trying to plan my escape by saying I have a really important phone call I have to make -- to China).
I have a humble respect and admiration for others not wanting us to be alone. What I do not respect or like is the societal spotlight placed on females during weddings.
I love the dress; the ceremony; the church. I definitely love wedding cake and the reception. I do NOT love that portion of the reception with 'Single Ladies' playing in the background while every unattached female comes to the front of the ballroom. The pulsing sound of Beyonce's "oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh" is no longer an anthem of female independence or the song to which I got ready while primping for a night out with my friends. It's now the brutal, bumping beat to which myself and others now reach their arms up to claw out the eyes of another female to catch a wedding bouquet.
Yeah, so for my friend's wedding last week I sat this one out. I've caught the bouquet already -- three times. So I'm not risking life or limb for an old tradition that has no real bearing on meeting the future Mr. Cathy any sooner.
OK, let me put down a disclaimer here: I'm not bitter. I believe in love, just not people throwing in your face the constant fact that you're alone.
See most ladies, we're alone only for the moment and we're REALLY enjoying that moment and learning about ourselves and the world so when we do meet a guy, we're not looking for him to complete us, but to add to an already pretty picture.
So all the single ladies, all the single ladies, let's enjoy singledom right now because it won't be forever and soon it will be our turn to play Beyonce and throw those flowers. Come to think of it, I think I'll play a different song when the time comes for me.
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